Spring 2018

Life and Health

Emotional Intelligence in 22 Proverbs

The term emotional intelligence has been around only since Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer coined it in 1990. But principles underlying the concept have a much longer pedigree. Here are 22 bits of wisdom, culled from an ancient source of wisdom: the book of Proverbs.

 

  1. “Do not contend with a man for no reason, when he has done you no harm” (Proverbs 3:30).
  2. “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses” (Proverbs 10:12).
  3. “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent” (Proverbs 10:19).
  4. “Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent” (Proverbs 11:12).
  5. “A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself” (Proverbs 11:17).
  6. “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).
  7. “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad” (Proverbs 12:25).
  8. “Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge” (Proverbs 14:7).
  9. “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29).
  10. “A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot” (Proverbs 14:30).
  11. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).
  12. “The heart of him who has understanding seeks knowledge, but the mouths of fools feed on folly” (Proverbs 15:14).
  13. “The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things” (Proverbs 15:28).
  14. “The light of the eyes rejoices the heart, and good news refreshes the bones” (Proverbs 15:30).
  15. “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body” (Proverbs 16:24).
  16. “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends” (Proverbs 17:9).
  17. “The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out” (Proverbs 17:14).
  18. “Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding” (Proverbs 17:27).
  19. “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent” (Proverbs 17:28).
  20. “It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling” (Proverbs 20:3).
  21. “‘Scoffer’ is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride” (Proverbs 21:24).
  22. “A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back” (Proverbs 29:11).